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The First Principle (UU Series #2)

I wrote last week introducing this series on the seven principles of Unitarian Universalism (UU).  For the next seven weeks I’m going to be highlighting one of the principles and talking about how it impacts my life, parenting, and work.

The first principle is “the inherent worth and dignity of every person.”

While I have always “believed” in this idea; being a member of the UU congregation has forced me to confront what this actually means and what am I doing to PRACTICE this.

This is the crux of all the UU principles: what are you doing to practice them?  It is not enough just to believe them; you must act on them in some way. This seems to stem from the humanist teachings; there is nothing that states you can’t believe in an afterlife but you also must work for the good of this life.

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The UU in Me

I’ve decided to try something a little bit different and write a series of posts; this is the first one outlining the series.  

There is a lot of Christian influence in the blogosphere which isn’t a bad thing but it isn’t part of my home or my parenting in the strictest sense of the word. I’m not anti-Christian: one of my good friends (and blog inspirations) Earl Grey and Yellow is a Christian blogger, I was raised Catholic, went to Quaker (AKA Friends) grade school and Catholic high school; there are many things I admire about the Christian faith but I do not identify as a Christian.   

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Update on How I Spend My Time

A few months ago I went through the work to identifying exactly how much time I have.  After rough estimates it came out to about 43.5 hours a week of “free time” not taken up by responsibilities of adulthood.  Since then I’ve been trying to find ways to fill that 43.5 hours with things that mean something to me; I have found some things that have become important to me and some things that don’t matter the way I thought they would have.

Happy Leave the Office Early Day! Enjoy the break!

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Do you own or belong?

Belonging and not ownership is something I’ve been contemplating lately.  I have come to the conclusion that belonging comes from a place of love and ownership comes from a place of ego.

Now don’t get me wrong, that ego can be a loving, well-meaning force but it is a force nonetheless which sometimes doesn’t leave a lot of room for the others who don’t live up to the owner’s expectations.

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Update 19 in 2019

I had hoped to write about this more often but it seemed tedious and repetitive the first few months because I wasn’t making any head way in quite a few of my goals but now that we’re 6 months into 2019 I have made a lot of progress.  If you want to read about my 19 for 2019 you can do that here and here.

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If You’re Not Fine You’re Still Okay!

“How can I say it?
The way to “get over” a life is to die.”

from The Cure by Albert Huffstickler

I recently heard this poem and this line stuck out for me.  “The way to get over a life is to die”. While that initially sounds incredibly depressing it is true.  The only way we’re getting out of this existence is death. And please, before I go any further, if you are reading this and feeling suicidal please stop and call 1-800-273-8255 or go to https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/.  Your life matters so please get help.

Whether you are a mom feeling the pressure of every day or you are a man feeling pressure to provide for your family and everything else in between; we struggle daily to “do it all and do it with a smile”.  While I’ve explained the pitfalls I’ve experienced with the do it all mentality before and how it’s just not possible, today I want to focus on the do it with a smile portion of this perfection disease we’re coping with.

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How Much Time Do I Really Have?

How much time do we really have?  I have been struggling since the Munchkin, and to be honest, since before the Munchkin, to figure out what I REALLY like to do.  What are my hobbies as an adult? I do a great job of “adulting” and taking care of the productive to do list but what do I do for fun? What does it feel like to be “alive” for me?

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Mommy Time Out…or Why We Need to Establish Boundaries and Self-Amusement

The Mr. has been away for work since Sunday, he came back today but I am so ready for him to come home.  I’m really not good at doing this by myself.  Sometimes I’m not good at doing this with him either but I really suck as a toddler mom (or just mom) some days.  And I’m not saying this out of a place of self-pity or a place of anxiety.  I am just not the best at handling the illogical little human that currently tries to run the house and throws a fit when things don’t go her way.  I didn’t realize milk tastes different when it’s in the blue cup versus the pink cup.  I didn’t realize food tastes different with the Moana fork but alas here we are.

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