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Do you own or belong?

Belonging and not ownership is something I’ve been contemplating lately.  I have come to the conclusion that belonging comes from a place of love and ownership comes from a place of ego.

Now don’t get me wrong, that ego can be a loving, well-meaning force but it is a force nonetheless which sometimes doesn’t leave a lot of room for the others who don’t live up to the owner’s expectations.

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Update 19 in 2019

I had hoped to write about this more often but it seemed tedious and repetitive the first few months because I wasn’t making any head way in quite a few of my goals but now that we’re 6 months into 2019 I have made a lot of progress.  If you want to read about my 19 for 2019 you can do that here and here.

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If You’re Not Fine You’re Still Okay!

“How can I say it?
The way to “get over” a life is to die.”

from The Cure by Albert Huffstickler

I recently heard this poem and this line stuck out for me.  “The way to get over a life is to die”. While that initially sounds incredibly depressing it is true.  The only way we’re getting out of this existence is death. And please, before I go any further, if you are reading this and feeling suicidal please stop and call 1-800-273-8255 or go to https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/.  Your life matters so please get help.

Whether you are a mom feeling the pressure of every day or you are a man feeling pressure to provide for your family and everything else in between; we struggle daily to “do it all and do it with a smile”.  While I’ve explained the pitfalls I’ve experienced with the do it all mentality before and how it’s just not possible, today I want to focus on the do it with a smile portion of this perfection disease we’re coping with.

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How Much Time Do I Really Have?

How much time do we really have?  I have been struggling since the Munchkin, and to be honest, since before the Munchkin, to figure out what I REALLY like to do.  What are my hobbies as an adult? I do a great job of “adulting” and taking care of the productive to do list but what do I do for fun? What does it feel like to be “alive” for me?

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Mommy Time Out…or Why We Need to Establish Boundaries and Self-Amusement

The Mr. has been away for work since Sunday, he came back today but I am so ready for him to come home.  I’m really not good at doing this by myself.  Sometimes I’m not good at doing this with him either but I really suck as a toddler mom (or just mom) some days.  And I’m not saying this out of a place of self-pity or a place of anxiety.  I am just not the best at handling the illogical little human that currently tries to run the house and throws a fit when things don’t go her way.  I didn’t realize milk tastes different when it’s in the blue cup versus the pink cup.  I didn’t realize food tastes different with the Moana fork but alas here we are.

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Parenting philosophy

I know I’ve only been at this gig for almost three years but I’ve developed some philosophies about parenting in that short time.  The internet is a treasure trove or minefield so take this as nothing more than my own experience and mantras, both as a high school teacher and a mom.

_There is no such thing as a perfect parent. So just be a real one._ _Sue Atkins (1)

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Update on 2019 – 1 month in!

Here we are, one month into 2019.  One twelfth down, or 8.3%, eleven-twelfths left.  I had posted about my goals for 2019 here and thought I could write an update every month to see how it’s going; that will also help keep me thinking about them.  Here’s my 19 for 2019 list that is hanging on my fridge:

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