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If You’re Not Fine You’re Still Okay!

“How can I say it?
The way to “get over” a life is to die.”

from The Cure by Albert Huffstickler

I recently heard this poem and this line stuck out for me.  “The way to get over a life is to die”. While that initially sounds incredibly depressing it is true.  The only way we’re getting out of this existence is death. And please, before I go any further, if you are reading this and feeling suicidal please stop and call 1-800-273-8255 or go to https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/.  Your life matters so please get help.

Whether you are a mom feeling the pressure of every day or you are a man feeling pressure to provide for your family and everything else in between; we struggle daily to “do it all and do it with a smile”.  While I’ve explained the pitfalls I’ve experienced with the do it all mentality before and how it’s just not possible, today I want to focus on the do it with a smile portion of this perfection disease we’re coping with.

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How Much Time Do I Really Have?

How much time do we really have?  I have been struggling since the Munchkin, and to be honest, since before the Munchkin, to figure out what I REALLY like to do.  What are my hobbies as an adult? I do a great job of “adulting” and taking care of the productive to do list but what do I do for fun? What does it feel like to be “alive” for me?

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Mommy Time Out…or Why We Need to Establish Boundaries and Self-Amusement

The Mr. has been away for work since Sunday, he came back today but I am so ready for him to come home.  I’m really not good at doing this by myself.  Sometimes I’m not good at doing this with him either but I really suck as a toddler mom (or just mom) some days.  And I’m not saying this out of a place of self-pity or a place of anxiety.  I am just not the best at handling the illogical little human that currently tries to run the house and throws a fit when things don’t go her way.  I didn’t realize milk tastes different when it’s in the blue cup versus the pink cup.  I didn’t realize food tastes different with the Moana fork but alas here we are.

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Parenting philosophy

I know I’ve only been at this gig for almost three years but I’ve developed some philosophies about parenting in that short time.  The internet is a treasure trove or minefield so take this as nothing more than my own experience and mantras, both as a high school teacher and a mom.

_There is no such thing as a perfect parent. So just be a real one._ _Sue Atkins (1)

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Update on 2019 – 1 month in!

Here we are, one month into 2019.  One twelfth down, or 8.3%, eleven-twelfths left.  I had posted about my goals for 2019 here and thought I could write an update every month to see how it’s going; that will also help keep me thinking about them.  Here’s my 19 for 2019 list that is hanging on my fridge:

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Embracing “Happy Christmas”

I’ve been listening to the Munchkin for almost the past month wish most people “Happy Christmas” instead of the more traditional “Merry Christmas” used here in the US.  I wondered where she came up with it because we are very clearly NOT British (the usual suspect of Happy Christmas) and she’s not old enough to watch all my beloved BBC shows with me yet so I decided to do a little digging into the Happy versus Merry difference.

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Year in Review – Forward in 2018?

This year was the first year I attempted the “one word” for the year and you can see my post here about choosing the word “forward”.  I chose forward for a lot of different reasons but mainly because I felt like I had stalled in my adulthood.  It wasn’t really in a bad way but I felt like I had hit a wall in my growth and was just trying to find out who I was as a person again.  I think all in all I did pretty well in 2018.

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