Last week I posted my recap of 2019 and all in all I am very happy with my attempt at adult resolutions. For 2020 I realized that I wanted to work on consistency but I was missing some foundations for it. Doing some soul searching I’ve come up with my word for 2020…..
While I was trying to focus on some habits in 2019 I was really missing the foundation for good habits: love. As I move through the 2020 year I’m going to work on focusing on love and using love for positive, and lasting change.
I purchased another bracelet through MyIntent. Last year, wearing a reminder EVERY DAY (until I wore it through) really helped me to focus on my goals and stick with the purpose I had set out at the beginning of the year.
So often people use resolutions or goals as a way to change who they are from a place of self hatred or negativity and as I come closer to 40 I realize the true meaning of “hate leads to the dark side.” You can do a lot with negative reinforcement but it never ends well and almost always doesn’t stick. I want to work on making changes because I love myself, my family, and my life and I want to be around a long time to experience them. Hating myself (and consequently being unhappy with things around me) will not help me accomplish that.
For 2020 I’ve broken my goals into four categories:
For Myself – Creating a culture of health
I have reached a place where I understand that changes can’t be made from a place of self-loathing. There are definitely things I am not thrilled about that I have the power to control or change; but I’m not so worried about the outcome (i.e. lose x number of pounds) because I want to make lifestyle changes that lead to overall wellness (mentally, physically, emotionally, etc…). I am worried about the HOW to be a better person, woman, wife, mother, etc… and creating a healthy self from a place of love is so important for that to happen.
- Morning Meditation three times a week
- Move 15 minutes a day for 5 days
- Read 20 books
- Reduce alcohol consumption to once a week
- Schedule annual wellness and asthma/allergy doctor appointments
For Family and Friends – Creating a culture of connection
The holidays have created some more time to see family and friends; to also spend more quality and/or quantity (they are different) with people in my life. This is the one that’s a little harder to measure but I want to do things that foster connections and love with people in my life and I have to focus on what I can control. When dealing with others it isn’t always the easiest to make them play along with my goals and intentions but I want to “clean up my side of the street” focusing on the role that I play in creating the bridge because as Elsa said in Frozen II: “A bridge has two sides”
- Check In/Family Updates
- Respond don’t react
- Stick to budget
- Plan 3 camping trips
- Genuine Hellos/Goodbyes
For Others – Creating a culture of abundance
The Mr. and I live in relative comfort but in the culture of MORE, BIGGER, BETTER, FASTER, etc…. that most Americans find themselves mired in, the blessings and abundance of every day life can be lost. “Comparison is the thief of joy” according to Theodore Roosevelt. Now, I’m not entirely sure what a Roosevelt needed to compare himself to but it is true. If you’re constantly seeing how you stack up next to someone else it takes the focus off of the life you are living. I need to flip that idea a little and realize that with the comfort that the Mr. and I have acquired we can be a little less Scrooge-y. That’s not to say we’re in a position to mimic Bill and Melinda Gates but we can do things that help people in our community.
- Split plate donation once a month (Sunday after the 15th of the month)
- Participate in 2 Community Outreach Work projects through church
- Participate in 2 town events
- Food pantry donations in the odd months
- Support 2020 Election
For World – Creating a culture of sustainability
As I write this, Australia is on fire. The Amazon was on fire over the summer. The world is literally burning. If that doesn’t bother you then you have a very short sighted view of humanity’s place in this world. The evidence shows that those in poverty experience environmental tragedies faster and more acutely than those in more secure economic situations. Since having the Munchkin, I am more and more concerned about the world (if any) that will be left to my child and her potential children. I want to work on creating a world where all of Earth’s children can take a breath without coughing so I will be working to reduce our ecological footprint this year.
- Reduce single use plastic
- Reduce food waste
- Buy only used clothes
- Walk in the woods once a month
- Put up a clothesline
I didn’t intend to make a list of 20 for 2020 but it happened. I have tried to make these goals SMART (specific, measurable, achievable, relevant, and time-based) because that makes them easier to stick to and easier to check off. I am really good with “to do” lists so it helps me break down what it means to live a year in love.